Disposofobia crepes without milk ... not wanting to throw away anything ... carried an article, very interesting Manuela Bianchi www.girlpower that I found on the site, about the very common DISPOSOFOBIA ... I think may be of interest to some of us all ...!!!
By Manuela Bianchi
The English call it compulsive hoarding , you mean "build-compulsive disorder", we better known as disposofobia or even " attic full syndrome "is a pathological disorder obsessive that forces its victims to collect objects on objects - useful or not - without being able to give even a brake when the situation goes much further that this irresistible collection of "real" get to literally invade the home and prevent the movement between the four walls.
Maria Rita Parsi, a professor of General Psychology 2 University Uniecampus telematics and founder of SIPA (Italian School of Psicoanimazione), defines a "pulse accumulation that does not allow you to select and door, over time, the loss of control , "adding that" it is a typical behavior of insecure people, who can not choose subjects emptied. In general, this applies to all, grows with the disclaimers, and these are people who do not know give priority to things, since the objects. "
The roots of the mechanism in short, both in its milder form than in pathological conditions, more and psychological bill, as saying that the issue of space, in reality, nothing more than the reflection of a problem ' soul. In this regard, Nicole White, an expert in relational dynamics, from the pages of "Psychologies Magazine" says: "The pain in throw away something that would hold even if no use is basically twofold: we suffer for the posting in itself, and because the objects are seen as an extension of oneself, one's emotions. "
And if there is a common matrix, the input multipliers are : some accumulates in the name of "you never know, might still serve," who tend to believe it is because the classic "Habe ergo sum "and others, perhaps, the unconscious fear of forgetting what it was. In the first case it is an attitude that reveals a great fear , namely that the future is preserved as much as possible to prevent and avoid any needs that will even so, from time to time, the steps obliged to surrender and accept that any resulting inevitably in self-renewal. Adults who project a rather excessive value on possession would disclose, according to psychoanalysis, a personality so-called "anal", a term used to describe that stage of growth of the child in which they learn the concept of giving and the concept of ownership, not it is often the case in subjects who received an education very rigid - and thus demanding - who ended up creating confusion on the balance between giving and receiving.
Finally, we said, there are those who keep memories of memories: the objects of the past, in this case, in addition to the emotional factor and sacrosanct reminiscent provide the proof of its existence and then an affirmation of identity, to define us as if our possessions were and our actions. In short, different paths that lead, however, a result which is always the same, you mean the triumph of the superfluous and lack of space, all of which come to think of a moment - and without bothering to go to the real disease - are safely in bad habits of many. And for those
che già da tempo stavano rimuginando a come correggere il tiro ma continuano a rimandare perché proprio non ci riescono, 3 sono i trucchi per cominciare a farsi largo fra le cianfrusaglie e ridare ossigeno a ripiani e cassetti:
1. Prima di tutto individuare nel mucchio (o nei mucchi) gli oggetti “insalvabili” : dalla sorpresa impolverata dell’ovetto Kinder fino al pennarello che non funziona più da tempo immemore, qualsiasi cosa anche se minuscola è pur sempre un gioioso centimetro di potenziale spazio guadagnato.
2. Ogni giorno un angolo . Roma non fu costruita in un giorno e lo stesso is for us to empty the bag free from the musty pounds of receipts and empty packs of cigarettes last month will only take a few minutes and there will be no excuse (work, children bring to kindergarten, fitness room that faces the question of the day) taking.
3. Learn over time to keep the space recreated and throw new things that are not needed as you go. Prevent, as someone said, it is better than cure, and also, especially in these cases, half the effort and double the performance.
then certainly useful, if you wish, some reading theme, for example "The space cleaning " Gigi Roe (ed. Xenia, 125 pg, 6.50 €) or even " The Laws of Simplicity "by John Maeda (edited by Bruno Mondadori, pg 147, 10 €) a sort of guided tour, organized into 10 rules, which is specifically aimed at developing a better balance in the conduct of everyday life.
But beyond the right advice and - for those who gave them to us - the good intentions, however, remain the two main factors: first of all awareness of their situation and, equally importantly, the desire to improve. That ci sia il bisogno dell’aiuto di uno psicoterapeuta o semplicemente di una bella mano di pulizia, insomma, il concetto parla chiaro: impegnarsi per migliorare fa crescere, fa bene, e la zavorra, a quanto pare, alla linea non giova ma alla vita neppure.
